It is normal for a teenager to have no sense of belonging. It's a quest that everyone takes on at some point in their adolescent lives. Finding this sense is effortless for some, but it's not exactly a drink of water for most others. It's disturbing how the incorporation of emotion and thought can lead to tragic acts.
Teen suicide has increased a lot lately, so much so that it has become one of the major causes of death in Canada. So, what relevance does that have to me? Suicide is ridiculous to me. If you already know me, then you know that I have a strong belief in logic and common sense. I know how strong emotion can be and what it can do to a person's psychological state. However, I also believe that the mind conquers all. How so?
I can not remember the last time I cried -which is sad- but I do remember how I stopped it. In addition, I never accept anything as true without having any evidence to its accuracy. Therefore, I do not expect anyone to take my word for anything. All of which leads back to my previous point, the mind conquers all. People cry upon encountering emotional turmoil. The argument, emotion, the rebuttal, the mind. When I cried, I always ended up going up to a mirror, looking at myself, and saying "I wonder what would happen if I smile…SMILE! " and I would smile. I like to believe that it was my mind that stepped up and destroyed the emotional arsenal. But who knows? Maybe I just have ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder), though my cousin, Karim, who always makes sense, thinks it's most unlikely that I do, and i agree.
Upon writing what you've read so far, I managed to baffle myself. That happened as I thought of you, my audience. I think that even though this is supposed to be an outlet of mine, I crave for leaving my audience dumbfounded. That's why I wondered what my audience would be thinking as they get to this point. Or maybe I just have ADD. I figured my audience would wonder, "if the mind conquers all, then how come our emotions play a huge role in the determining our mood, and the decisions we make?"
A feeling is an opinion or belief, not based on reasoning. It is triggered by emotion; a chain reaction which could block out the mind. With that being said, the absence of the mind does not qualify as the mind being conquered, rather its being a spectator. The mind can only conquer itself. When the mind decides to ignore itself, emotion takes hold of the situation. It is up to you to allow your mind to react.
I have made it my mission to help you, my audience, learn from my mistakes, in hopes that you yourself do not have to deal what I have; skip right to the, moral, if you will. So, what I have learned is that emotion tends to distort the mind, and sabotage logic. If ever you find yourself in a state of intense emotional agitation, you must write. Grab a pen and a pad, and write down anything, a letter for instance. Once you're done writing it, put it aside, sleep on it, not literally of course, and read it the next day. By then, you aren’t drunk with emotion, and your mind would have the chance to retaliate to whatever event took place.
I picked this method up from my uncle, who in turn picked it up from a friend of his. It always worked for her, as it did for me. We can only hope it to work for others just as well.
It sounds logical enough, maybe that's why it worked for both her and me…
Or maybe we just both have ADD…
1 comment:
Very good then. I take part in this audience, and I await with patience reading about your experience and using it to live better. Just as you have used someone else's experience to improve yourself.
Two comments though:
1. The irony of the human condition is that most of us are not smart enough (for want of a better term) to learn from others' experience. The lesser fortunate of us need to be burned a little to learn the lesson. Therefore we have to always allow others the chance to make their own mistakes when all else fails. If your intention is to help others, I think you should develop the -secret- motivation to do so. Make it your little secret. What are your thoughts on that?
2. I think it was Nietzsche who said that people like to imitate while rising above the one being imitated, therefore it's good to add a little "foolishness" to one's "virtue." I understand that as trying to seem as simple and un-preachy as possible. This is the best way to help: without saying that you are trying to. The other condition to helping others is to also allow yourself to be helped by the process. In other words, the healer is healed by the healing too. By talking about our experience, we strengthen the lesson and get rid of the unwanted residual feelings. What do you think?
I can't wait for the next post. No pressure though, take your time. :)
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